If we were to name our contemporary world, I would call it the era of “living on display.”
Never before has the personal life of each of us been so exposed and made available to everyone. Our deepest secrets and most intimate thoughts are passed around via a simple tap on a phone screen. Hundreds of friends on Facebook, Instagram, or other social networks know where you are, who you are with, and what you are thinking about right now.
We all want recognition for ourselves, but why do we do this? Why buy luxurious houses, cars, and clothes? What is the underlying reason behind our desire for status, wealth, marriage, and professional success? These are all parts of the ambitious system in which we live. It’s not inherently wrong to make use of online platforms; they enable us to expand our horizons, and I believe that’s a good thing. But the tension between exterior grandeur and inner truth—between ostentation and authenticity—is something that we must confront if we are ever to break free from this cycle.
Images posted on social media, thoughts, stories about life, jokes. The Internet is an essential part of our current reality, but it is only a small part of the whole. If it consumes all your time and attention, you will be shocked one day when you come face-to-face with who you truly are. Any new information takes time to understand and process if you choose to filter it. What would happen if you ate whatever came in front of you without moderation? Your health will suffer in the long run; your taste buds will lose their sensitivity, and your innate instincts of self-preservation will quickly be suppressed due to overload.
The same goes for your ears; it's an organ of perception, and if you listen to music or have the television playing in the background 24x7, it’s like stuffing yourself constantly without giving your body any chance to rest or recover. The lack of opportunities for recovery can lead to chronic fatigue. Similarly, if you're consuming information all the time without filtering it out, all the data gets stored subconsciously as automatic reactions.
What is my true image? Why do I have to put on a show when I don’t feel happy or fulfilled doing it? Who am I living for, and what type of audience am I trying to impress?
My constant sadness, fear, loneliness, and boredom—are these signs that I have become too distant from myself and need to take some time away to figure out who I really am and where I’m headed in life?
I’m not against having lovely outward appearances. It can be an expression of our inner beauty. But it shouldn't be the only thing that matters, because external beauty is not lasting. We will see its eventual decline, and we may suffer greatly because we are too attached to the superficial aspects.
The invisible inner life often goes overlooked by others, leading to the assumption that nothing ever changes. But I knew differently—suddenly, my inner space was bursting with creativity and passion, transforming me in ways those around me had never seen before. They were amazed and wondered why these changes had occurred so rapidly. I could only smile. Nothing magical happened overnight. For years, I had been carefully investing in my Bank of Life, cultivating the right resources and habits to support the transformation that finally arrived.
Seeing such remarkable change in someone else can be inspiring, but don't expect quick results. These achievements take time, effort, and a real desire for personal growth - without this sincere motivation, it's almost impossible to bring about a lasting change.
I founded Kaspari Life & Business Academy back in 2021 because what I truly want is for every corner to be filled with beautiful, kind, and confident women who understand their purpose and walk boldly down their own paths. And, of course, intelligent men by their side. But this won’t happen until we get rid of our unhealthy fascination with the exterior—our internal being should always come first.
At the same time that I strive to help my clients achieve true and lasting wealth from within, I understand how hard it is for them to remain unshakeable in light of outside influences—judgments, changes in circumstances, and other people’s opinions. In my Unshakeable People Club online programs, I strive every day to show them a path to an inner core of solidity and strength.
I’ve watched so many stories in my life where a person at 40 or 50 could be stuck in the same position for ten years, never making any progress. It's hard to believe that they don't take the initiative to better their lives and accept responsibility for themselves. Of course, it's their own free will, but I can't help but feel sorry for all those lost years. At thirty, forty, or even fifty years old, it’s more difficult to make up for what would’ve been achieved at fifteen or twenty. But with determination, it’s possible—but when it comes down to it, many people think, Why bother? Everyone is always watching and admiring, but what matters to you? What do you value about yourself? How much have you grown over the years? Are you moving forward or backwards? Have you softened towards beauty and kindness? Or are you just living a shallow and meaningless life? As easy as it may be to think of simpler questions, this is what we should really be asking ourselves.
We all come to the same question: “What is the meaning of life? What have I achieved from it? Where do I fit in?” No matter your age, everyone has faced this dilemma and will continue to. The sooner you confront this thought, the easier future changes (which are inevitable!) will become.
What can make us happy? Inner peace, hobbies, loved ones, a cosy home, delighted children, supportive friends, and captivating stories that can be shared.
But don't try to run away from this inquiry. Consider my words carefully...
Everything is possible, and it is never too late. Just one day, decide for yourself that you truly want to change. And once you do, you will change, inevitably!
Katie Kaspari, MBA, MA Psychology, ICF.
CEO and Founder of Kaspari Life Academy.
Top-rated Author, Motivational Speaker, Mindset and Business Strategy coach.
Good Habits Design for Success and Happiness.
Shaping MINDS and building LEADERS.
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